A love letter for my future wife,
the one whom I love her the most
Why I want to get married to you, my Future wife?
Because you worship Allah, please him, glorify him, fight for his Sake and stay firm to his Deen above all others. Because you are a believing woman whose Imaan & Akhlaq are transcendent. Because you love your parents and grandparents so dearly for they are the ones who have been patient in bringing you up to be the woman that you are predestined to be. Because you love your siblings and your close relatives as you strive to lead them by example. Because you love my parents, my siblings and my close relatives just like your own. Because you love me sincerely without doubting him when he chooses me to complete the other half of your Deen. Because you are patient enough to wait for years, decades even, for my arrival into your life and ignore all the other men who could’ve tempted you. Because you can appreciate my man ness way beyond that which is apparent to you. Because you are pleasing to my eyes and heart as I am to yours. Because you enhance my intelligence with your own and together we can use this gift from him for him. Because you are gentle towards me and you will never raise your voice nor your hands at me or at our children. Because you are generous with your Naseehah for me as you want me to be the best that I can be before I finally face him. Because you are ever cautious to protect me, our family and our loved ones from the Cursed One.
Because you are always grateful to him for what you have and for what you don’t and remind me to be grateful too for what I have and for what I don’t. Because you share everything with me; your fears, your worries, your tears, your ups, your downs, your smiles, your success, your… Everything. Because you have put to good use the fitrah that Allah has given to you and bring back home the Halal Rizq and Halal children from him that can sustainer family in this temporary life and most definitely, be the means for our preparation for the hereafter. Because you not only want me to be your companion in the Dunya but also in Jannatul Firdaus; our shared goal since Azali. Because you could be the chosen one whom Allah has handpicked for me since the day I was born and verily, Allah’s choice is always and always will be the best for me.
If you love me, don’t confess your love to me through haraam ways because this won’t please me and will instead drive me away! And love games don’t attract me.
And most importantly, because you will let me go of lillahi ta’ala should he decide to turn the tables around and make another woman as your rightful wife in the end and not me because man proposes, Allah disposes.
If you love me, have sabr and I will knock on your door when the time is right. Don’t give me privileges which I don’t deserve. Keep me away from you, and I will approach you.
If you approach me, I will stay away from you. Don’t love me, for I want you ignorant in love. I want to teach you love when the right time comes and when you will be mine, only when we are joined together under our Creator’s satisfaction. Don’t tell me what you feel, don’t give me from your time; don’t push me to lose you. I am a man who does not want to see the one he loves committing sins or to live a forbidden love behind her family’s back. I don’t want her to feel guilty and don’t want her heart to suffer. Put me under limits that I won’t cross, kill me inside you so I won’t grow to kill you inside me. Preserve what is beautiful inside you. I want you innocent, chaste, pure. I want you my love, but with Allah’s blessings and not Shaytan’s whisperings. And then, Only then, I will face everything and will be ready to go through difficulties to get you, Don’t be easy because then, I may not value you. Don’t love me now, so I won’t hate you!
My heart wants you and doesn’t want to lose you. I don’t want you to be just a passing fancy for me, I want you a wife, a lover, the mother of my children, I want you to be the one I will spend my whole life with. How could I be a faithful man to you when I try to break your chastity? How would I be faithful to you if I push you to betray your family?
How could I trust a love which grew under Allah’s wrath?
To make you mine through Nikah is Islam’s way, till then wait patiently and donot dismay. To love you means to protect you, to Love you is to bring you closer to Allah and his Deen. To preserve you not to kill what is beautiful inside you.
Your Future Husband to be (In shallah!)
